James Sapara’s Personal Blog

I made this list years ago, I’ve quicky read it over and it seems sound. I’m sure it’s full of spelling/grammer mistakes.

My list of things my love of my life HAS to have… well not has… but damn they better come close.

1. She has to be smart, funny and good looking.
2. Looks after herself phyiscally and mentally.

3. Has some sort of interest in computers and the amazing stuff they can do. Bonus if she doesn’t think I’m crazy for having so many cool gadgets.

4. Likes to get outdoors and move around. Doesn’t mind sitting at home and just being together either.

5. Wants to travel the world with me. This goes with my plans to travel to south korea and teach english. I’d be lieing is I said I didn’t want them to come with me.

6. Loves food. Not eating lots of it, but all kinds of food. I can’t stand it when people don’t eat something because it has something they don’t like on it. I’ll never understand why people don’t like so many things… everything is good unless it’s rancid (unless intentionally rancid, then I suppose thats oky )

7. Be honest always, even if you think it’s going to hurt my feelings. It may just do that, but I’ll appreicate you and what you said alot more if you just say it. I forgive very easy, but my scorn will burn you.

8. Has to get my weird sarcastic humour.

9. Not a neat freak, since I’m far from neat. (I’m honestly trying to be more neat… and I don’t think I’m all that messy anyways… just unorganized )

10. Be able to handle how freaking honest I am majority of the time. I tend to be very direct and to the point. Sometimes a little shrewd… but I figure I’m either 100% or nothing.

11. Sex isn’t everything, but it’s something. I’ll be honest… and this isn’t my dick speaking either… I love to show love through acts of naughtness in bed.

12. Be an equal partner in a relationship. I don’t mind treating a girl nice and doing romantic things for them… but try to do the same. Never again will I do it all and have the girl expect it all.

13. At the end of a life, money is really just something you collected and hopefully spent. In the mean time, lets be fair about this and try to 50/50 what we do. I don’t mind getting dinner this time, if you get it next time. Gifts are a bit more tricky… I’d say get what you want, but never expect the same back. In the end things will equal out anyways.

14. Not be a religious zelot. I’m not “religious” myself. I do believe in a form of God… but it’s rather unconventional. I’d rather have someone who is open to discussing idea’s of God.

15. Be open to discussion about anything. Be willing to argue against me, just for the sake of argument.

16. Know and understand that I love to be with you, but I love to be with me too. I need time to do what I do. Thats mainly waste my time on the computer ( well not exactly waste, but close enough ). Some of these activitys you are welcome to join me on, some of them I’d rather be alone. When I want to be alone, don’t be hurt… just know that I’ll be back and ready for some cuddles.

17. I don’t talk sometimes ( amazing, I know… ) Don’t force me to talk, because I’m probably trying to think of what to talk about. I tend to be a very reflective person, so depending on what we were talking about I may take my sweet time to talk back. I’ll let you know when I’m done reflecting ( as a note, reflecting may be interupted and then continue at a later time… it could take more than a day/week/month to forumlate my reply… but I’ll formulate a reply )

18. Change is good. Change how ever you want, I don’t mind. I recognize that people evolve, and encourage it. I expect the same understanding.

19. Tolerance and patience. I’m a stubborn old man already, so forgive me if I’m a pain in the ass. There’s a wedding poem that says “…never goto sleep angery…” I’m oky if we get angery at eachother. How about not playing a game with it and talking to me about it. Tell me how you feel and why. I’m positive we can work anything out, but don’t play games with me.

20. Here’s the killer for most girls… ambition. If your content with the idea of having babies and staying at home I think we’re done. I want to have kids one day. First I want to live my life, travel the world, see new places, eat new foods, meet new people, gain a broad perspective on life. I want all of that… and I want someone who wants that as well. I want to that happen, which means doing everything I can now to ensure that I can do what I want tomorrow and everyday after. If that means making money, so be it ( and yes it means making money). My goals in life are fairly simple… Do what makes me happy, Make someone else happy, Raise intellegent spawns to continue this idea. There you have it… amazing I know. I could probably write more, but I think this has probably pruned 99% of all single females anyways. Talk about dooming myself…

Flame away!